Hey Everyone! I’m in the process of re-vamping my blog so just hang in there with me 🙂 I’ve taken a lot of my old content down but if you were here before and you’re looking for something that used to be here, feel free to contact me and I will gladly send you what you’re looking for. Stay tuned…
So many people, Christians, and non-Christians alike have a misconception about what sin is. I was definitely one of those people myself until I committed to getting to know and understand God’s word (aka, the Bible). Not to mention, there have been too many incorrect teachings and too many people mistreated because of a lack of understanding of sin, etc. So take a look at this video because it’s NOT what you think and we only know HALF of the truth…
When I was growing up, the church was seen as a place of refuge by the majority. Unfortunately, it’s not like that today and there are several reasons that contribute to this, but broken trust is the main one. I myself, stopped going to church on a consistent basis once I got to college but about 17 years later, once I began to desire a more intimate relationship with God, I started going back. However, I was very cautious about choosing the right church. In this video, I talk about that, as well as how you can recognize and find the right church for you.
(*I mentioned in this video that I would include notes/tips at the bottom on how to recognize the right church but I actually say it in the video 🙂 )
This video will live on the “My Testimony” page but I wanted to do it as a blog post as well. Feel free to share, comment, all that good stuff 🙂
Next month, I will be 40. I don’t feel like it but my left knee does. I’ve always been a thinker. My mama tells me I think too much and for the most part, I agree. But most of the time, I’m honestly thinking about how I can learn from the things I get wrong (which is often) in hopes that I will grow to be a better human who’s capable of contributing some good stuff to the world.
Below is a list of things I’ve learned and/or observed throughout my almost 40 years of life. Notice for some of them, I wrote in the first person because they’re personal to me. Feel free to read them and see if they apply to things you’ve learned and to share them in the comments as well!
- Never wait on anyone to give me permission to be who God created and equipped me to be.
- It is very possible to live without the Internet.
- Hindsight will drive me crazy.
- I thought I knew who I was way before I actually did.
- Most of my health concerns can be eliminated through the foods I eat.
- If I left my acquisition of black history knowledge to American textbooks, I would only know about: Martin Luther King, Harriet Tubman and Frederick Douglass.
- Comfortable underwear/drawz/panties are underrated.
- It’s quite alright to cut some people out of my life. EVERYONE is of value but not everyone is of value to me.
- As I grew older, my life became more a result of personal choices than circumstances.
- It’s never too late to start over.
- When someone tells me I’m their only friend, RUN! (This especially pertains to romantic relationships)
- Most of the things I need (notice, I said NEED) are provided through & from the earth (Coconut oil, shea butter, and apple cider vinegar cover everything).
- Weed has yet to take a life and is prescribed by doctors to cure certain illnesses, yet it remains illegal in most states. Cigarettes kill on a daily basis, yet can be legally purchased in every convenient store.
- Wood paneling and popcorn ceilings are a sin.
- Failure is not an option as long as I try.
- Everyone is not going to like me and that’s okay.
- Jesus is real.
- Denim was not originally cut and created with my body type in mind.
- It is dangerous to let my imagination go unused or to stop dreaming.
- Vision boards > New Year’s Resolutions.
- Black women do not do passive aggressive and I, being one of them, am proud of it.
- Apologizing and admitting I’m wrong aids in my self-growth and is beneficial for the person I’ve wronged.
- Humility is admirable.
- I don’t believe in soul mates. I believe the person I select to do this life thing and build a family with is it. So I will choose wisely.
- Being a people pleaser often leads to disappointing myself.
- Only highly insecure people actually have the nerve to call someone physically “ugly”.
- No one can let me down like I can.
- My mom was right…about everything.
- The world is full of insecure people who are in positions of power and authority. Find ways around them.
- I can learn from someone’s successes and failures.
- Being resilient in love is a gift.
- If I don’t take me seriously, no one else will.
- Being active is the key to life.
- Wearing my hair the way God naturally intended it to grow out of my scalp should not be up for workplace dress code discussion.
- Showing up for friends and family is important.
- In relationships, repetitive, unwanted behavior from my partner becomes my fault.
- Be grateful for where I am while I’m there, not in retrospect (hence, #3).
- Michael Jackson vs. Prince should have never been a thing. They were different, amazing and there was room enough for both of them…obviously.
- A simple life is underrated.
- The kids are watching.
Hey There! Thanks for stopping by my blog. I’m so glad that you did! I’m in the process of updating my posts (adding some/taking some away), as well as the look/layout of my blog. Meaning, if you come here one day and things seem to be changing everytime you refresh, please be patient with me. It’s a work in progress. Look at it as if you’re walking into a store that’s currently under construction but you can still buy things. Cool?
Before going into 2017, I think I would do myself some good to do a heart detox. I’m not talking about un-clogging my arteries by sipping on green juices and smoothies for weeks at a time (okay let’s be real: days at a time because by day 4, I’m about to kill somebody if I don’t get some solid foods in my system!). I’m talking about really sitting down in a quiet space, dissecting the year going out so that I can go confidently into the new year with a clear mind and heart. We often take the time to write down our new year’s resolutions and a lot of those are tangible, physical goals we’d like to achieve. But what about the intangible things? The spaces in our brains and hearts that have become cluttered by the past year’s junk? Don’t we need to take the time to acknowledge and de-clutter those?
2016 was crazy! The election, no matter what side you were on, put a lot of people in a bad space. Some of us lost friends, fought with our families, got fired from jobs, viewed our co-workers that we thought we knew in a different light. The list of side effects from this bad pill we call “politics” goes on and on. I know personally, I’ve gone back and viewed past Facebook posts or tweets, read them out loud and thought: “hmm, I can see how, even though I feel I was coming from a righteous place, could be hurtful to someone with opposing views”. That’s never my intention. I’m sure it’s never the majority of our intentions but by nature, we as humans are passionate about the things we believe in and it causes us to react from an emotional space more often than not.
While it may not be possible, nor desired to restore some of the friendships lost or broken this year, what we can do prior to entering 2017 is perform a post-mortem of the last 12 months we’re leaving behind and hopefully leave a few unnecessary things with it. Here’s a step by step process of what I like to call, my “Spirit detox”:
I grab a sheet of paper and divide it down the middle, creating 2 separate columns: “2016 Pros” and “2016 Cons”. (*Note: this pros and cons list will include not only tangible, physical accomplishments and failures but mental and emotional ones as well). Once I’ve made this list, I measure each one by the following:
- How did this affect me internally?
- Did this help or harm me or anyone else?
- Was this righteous and responsible for myself and for others?
- Is this something I should carry into the new year with me?
- If this was wrong, what can I do to correct it?
- When will I start the correcting?
People repeat Gandhi’s quote all the time: “you must be the change you want to see in the world”. It sounds great but talk is cheap. I don’t know about you, but I spend the majority of my time outwardly making things happen and that’s okay. Productivity is great! But it’s my personal responsibility to also take the time and make sure that whatever I’m outwardly producing sprouted from a good, healthy space on the inside as well. AND, the good thing about this detox is, it can be done anytime, as much as you feel you need it.
Now, who’s detoxing with me? Please feel free to leave a comment if you have any helpful steps to add or your own detoxing techniques you’d like to share!
As far back as I can remember, I never grew up thinking I wanted what some people consider, “The American Dream”: the house, the husband, the kids. Don’t get me wrong, I always SAID I wanted it when I was in conversation with someone but I never really FELT that’s what I wanted. I never aimed to achieve that. It was as if acquiring those things was the natural order of life and I was supposed to want them. It wasn’t until I hit 31 that I realized I wasn’t dreaming the American Dream. Let me tell you how this happened: